The role of mediation is to help parents to make arrangements for their children following separation or divorce. It is important that decisions about future parenting are made by the parents as they are the ones who know their children best. Parents are encouraged to consider all of the implications of the arrangements they propose to make for their children. The perspective of the children is crucial in helping parents in their decision making.
As part of the mediation process, the mediator will offer to see your child to give them the opportunity to talk to someone independent. This is what we call child inclusive mediation (previously Direct Child Consultation). This will allow the child to give their views on the proposals and arrangements you are talking about in mediation. The child should not feel they need to take sides, especially if there is a difference of opinion between the parents.
When parents are disagreeing about how to share their parenting, the voice of the child is sometimes not heard very clearly, as the adults are preoccupied. Child Inclusive mediation is an independent way of getting the voice of the child in the room.
If you want to talk about Child Inclusive Mediation further, please email Linda Hunter firstname.lastname@example.org or call 01928 735 333.